A few weeks ago I was telling you about how busy I was due to studying for my exams. Well here is the post to tell you how it went. Maybe the title is a small hint though *winkwink*
To explain my story I need to start from the beginning: When I was born.. (jk, but seriously I will need to give you some background information).
I’ve always been a very good student (very good meaning mostly A’s). It’s not that my parents where really strict about me getting good grades but rather that I just enjoyed learning new things. I’ve always been very curious I guess. Since I knew that university existed I was determined to go there no matter what. While my mother started working right after school and my father did his A levels and diploma a little later in life, I knew I wanted to study as long as possible.
While studying for my A-levels I found myself very interested by other peoples behavior and thoughts, so I thought about studying psychology (I can go a little further into detail about why I like psychology some other time if you’d like). I realized that to go to a certain uni I should get a 1,3 in my A-levels. I’m not exactly sure what that translates to in other countries, but let’s just say that it’s pretty if not very good.
I knew it meant a lot of studying and discipline if I wanted to make it but it was by no means impossible. So to cut a long story short: I did it (even though I messed up on my oral exam)!
I was very proud (maybe with a hint of cockiness) and ready to rock uni. So there was uni, the place I had so many expectations about. And most of the time when you have a lot of expectations nothing will live up to them. An that was the case with uni for me so far. Don’t get me wrong I LOVE psychology, but uni… not so much.
I was very spoiled to be able to write critical essays and tests about what I found most interesting concerning the topic we where studying at the school where I did my A-levels. Now in uni, we do nothing else but memorizing stupid facts to remember them for the multiple choice style exams. I hate it! To be honest my hate might root from my inability to memorize facts. I have no problem understanding complex coherences and reviewing them critically in a written text but I can’t handle studying for multiple choice tests.
So my success in the first three semesters was not what I expected. I had a really hard time and in the end failed to stay anywhere near my GPA from my A-levels. I tried tons of different study methods but in the end none of these methods were noticeably different from when I didn’t have time studying and only crammed the night before an exam. I can’t seem to get much better than around a 3,0.
To finally return to my initial topic (my last exams results): I studied as much as I have never studied in uni before. I tried the last thing I could think of, which was straight up studying – studying as hard and for as long as I could. For two weeks I sat in the library everyday for 8 hours and wrote over 600 flashcards that I tried to memorize.
I felt very good about myself, proud that I had the discipline and I even had a good feeling during the exam.
In the end it turns out that no matter how hard I try and what method I use I can’t seem to get any better.
I know that failure can mean a lot of different things, but for me it means not exceeding my own expectations. And while failure is an inevitable part of life I’ve learned that it is not your failure that define you but the way you respond to these moments. Which does not mean that I didn’t cry and cry and cry and thought I was the stupidest person alive! I am a big believer of feeling emotions that have to be felt, ya know?
But after I cried, hated myself enough and after a week passed I realized that even though I feel like I tried everything I could, gave my best and still failed, there was nothing else to do but to just keep going.
I am not the most motivated student right know (which is understandable I guess) but I will keep going because – well, a future in psychology ,for me, is worth a little hard work and even some failures.
So please let me know about your failures simply so that I can make myself feel better about my nonexistent success in uni!